A 21-year-old mum who delayed cancer treatment rather than have an abortion has now been given the all clear.
Ellie Whittaker from Chesterfield was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma in October 2019 while she was also 16 weeks pregnant. Ellie was told that chemotherapy to treat the cancer could harm her unborn baby, so her doctors told her she should have an abortion.
“I don’t regret my decision and I’d make the same one again given the choice.”
Ellie refused to have an abortion and decided to delay chemotherapy until after her daughter was born.
‘The doctor advised I have an abortion because cancer treatment could cause problems for the baby. There was no way I was going to give her up so I chose to delay it.’
Her daughter, Connie, was born on 18th March 2020, and by that time the cancer had progressed. Ellie started treatment almost immediately after the birth.
She said: ‘I tried to spend as much time with Connie as I could before I started. I remember crying and thinking I wouldn’t be able to be there for her.
‘I knew the chemotherapy would take its toll.
‘But when they scanned me the cancer had progressed to stage three – it had spread to my stomach and spleen.’
The all clear
Ellie underwent 12 gruelling rounds of chemotherapy between March and September before doctors finally gave her the all clear in October 2020.
“I’m so pleased it’s gone and I can focus on being a mum.”
“Connie’s an amazing baby – she started teething and trying to sit-up. She’s the quietest baby and sleeps through the night. I wouldn’t change her for the world.”
Pressured to have an abortion
Women are advised or even pressured to have abortions for many different reasons. They are often pressured to have an abortion if doctors think their child might be disabled.
In 2017, a damning report from the UK’s Care Quality Commission (CQC) accused Marie Stopes International (now MSI Reproductive Choices) of paying staff bonuses for persuading women to have abortions.
In October of this year, a nurse in the UK said she was left fearing for her life and needing emergency surgery after MSI Reproductive Choices denied her proper counselling and pressured her to take abortion pills at home, rather than under the supervision of a doctor in a clinic.
Right To Life UK’s spokesperson, Catherine Robinson, said: “It’s wonderful that Ellie is now free of chemotherapy and her daughter is healthy. It’s so encouraging to see this brave mother refuse an abortion despite potential risks to her own health.”
“Sadly, in this case the doctors are endorsing a form of twisted logic that says: ‘Better to have an abortion than risk harming the baby.’ In reality of course, nothing could harm the baby more than ending his or her life through abortion.”
This is a www.lifenetwork.eu opinion piece
Love Louder – Jeff and Jennifer Christie
If I had listened to you,
I wouldn’t have woken up this morning with five year old toes in my face.
There wouldn’t be light up Batman sneakers in the shoe rack,
or goldfish crackers swimming on the floor of our SUV.
If I had listened to you,
I wouldn’t know all the words to the Paw Patrol theme song,
or the names of the Bubble Guppies.
I wouldn’t have seen Frozen in the theater.
Twice.
I have a few more stretch marks,
A little less money,
less time,
and more fine lines around my eyes.
If I had listened to you,
I wouldn’t know the tug of little arms around my neck,
sticky hands tenderly patting my face,
random requests for mommy snuggles.
If I had listened to you,
the phrase “beauty for ashes” would be one dimensional,
healing would have been a slow, uphill climb,
and so much pain would have so much less purpose.
I have a little more patience,
and a little less pride,
less selfishness,
more faith in the Great I AM.
If I had listened to you,
to the world,
to the doubt and the fear,
I’d miss hearing a croaky morning voice tell me he misses me when he’s asleep.
But I didn’t listen to you.
I listened to love.
The heart of God,
the motion of mercy,
the song of grace,
the soul of the mother that I already was and was destined to be again.
Sounds of love, louder than the anxiety, drowning out the agony.
Louder.
I listened.
I followed.
And just look what I got.
Life with no regrets.
Jennifer Christie
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